Do you want kids? Be BRUTALLY honest about your answer. I watched a couple of friends go from ‘cool married couple I wanna be like’ to ‘people that can’t share the same area code’ pretty much overnight when they got pregnant. She wanted kids, he didn’t, she decided to go off the pill without telling him. and their relationship dissolved pretty soon after she announced she was expecting. He’s a totally not at all involved non-parent who pays his support but has repeatedly refused any custody arrangement that would force him to spend time with his son. She’s WAY bitter about how things turned out. think they’re both assholes.