My roommate at uni needed a shoulder to cry on after he broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex. It’s been four months and we do it nearly every day. Immediately after we do the deed we say “No Homo ” which clears us of being gay.
My family is from the East but I was born in Lagos. I am the only one in my family who doesn’t speak Igbo, all my extended family (grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc.) speak it but I never really cared for it that much. Sarah (my girlfriend) knows I am an Igbo and she asked if I spoke Igbo but when I said no, she didn’t push which I found refreshing, usually people ask a lot of questions. She never said she spoke Igbo but I remember her watching something and hearing Igbo but I figured she had subtitles on. If it’s important, Sarah is from Lagos and we have been together for 3 months. It’s not long but it’s been intense. My grandmother had birthday on Saturday and my family threw her a huge party. I invited Sarah to come along with me as it would be perfect time to meet my family and they’re always very welcoming. She agreed. When we got there, everyone switched to English to speak to Sarah but they quickly went back to Igbo. I went to grab a beer and came back to find Sarah talking to my aunt, in Igbo (!). I came over and played it cool, telling her I didn’t know she spoke it, yadda yadda. When Sarah was with me, she spoke English but whenever she spoke to one of my family members alone, she switched because they switched. It made me really uncomfortable, especially since it wasn’t your typically barely spoken Igbo, it was full on, fluent Igbo and she understood my fast speaking relatives. I got really annoyed with her but said nothing. My grandma told me how much she loved Sarah and how she’s happy I found such an amazing girl. All my family loved her and couldn’t stop singing praises about her. On our way back, I got really angry with her and when we got to my apartment, I told her that I feel betrayed that she hid she spoke Igbo and how she made a fool of me out there. I admit I……
My wife deleted my girlfriend’s (Naomi) number from my phone and saved her own number as Naomi. I do not know who told my wife about my girlfriend. She then sent me a message saying that she needed 200k for something urgent. I rushed to my wife and asked if she could loan me 200k, I even lied to her that my brother was sick and needed the money. My wife gave me the money and I sent it to the account number provided in the text message. I was at home wondering if she got the money because I didn’t hear from her. I then sent her a message asking if she got it.. Her response was….. Call me now.. I went behind our house to make the call.. You can imagine my horror face when I heard my wife’s voice instead of Naomi… It has been days now and I have been standing outside.. do not know how to get back into my own house. Please advise me on what to do…
I’m about to vent about my ex so please please please continue scrolling before making sick remarks or whatever. I don’t want advice, I think I just need to get it out of my system.So we started dating last year in June. We had a good relationship, it was long-distance but it was healthy. Or at least I thought it was. He would come visit me and I would go visit him and we’d stay for long(weeks) in each other’s presence. He was the perfect gentleman, the man who was raised well and had the best manners. He was sweet, loving and he was all a girl would wish for in a guy. He was Bible-orientated, really believed in prayer. Really, I have no bad things to say about how the relationship started. It was beautiful in my eyes. Things started becoming rocky around October of 2021 when he first hit me through my face neqr the South Campus Tuck Shop while he was drunk, I also thought it was because he was drink and that he would never when he’s sober. But I stuck it out and thought those were just the ups and downs of a relationship, also I was very in love with this man. Things spiraled out of control during this year when we were living together. I’d been in a fight with my dad’s family while I was in the Eastern Cape (King William’s Town) and I was taking on so much strain that I decided to leave because my parents live in the Western Cape. This is how I moved into his room. During the #Sizofunda ngenkani campaign in January. All I had when I arrived at his place were the clothes on my back and the bag of clothes that were in my bag. He took me in because he understood the situation I was in, but I really feel he took advantage of that situation that I was in.He mistreated me, he stopped being affectionate and stopped telling me he loved me like he always did. His reason behind not telling me……
How do I tell my bf I can’t continue? He’s down on his luck right now – he’s going through some personal stuff and doesn’t have a job, so I’ve been paying for everything – food, drinks, transport, etc for the two of us. I make less than 100,000 a month, and our last date cost me 40,000 (I didn’t anticipate that I’d have to pay for everything). I can barely afford to pay for myself, let alone him as well. But I really like him, and I don’t want him to hate me or feel like I’m abandoning him while he goes through such a difficult time. I’m supposed to be seeing him again this weekend but honestly, I really need to save money, especially after our last date. What would you guys do?
My baby would’ve been a year old today if that pharmacy in my area wasn’t open
I had a girlfriend when I was 18 she was just 15 then. She said she didn’t want sex. I loved the girl very much and I accepted her condition. But, I was already addicted to sex she wasn’t the first girl I dated but, I was her first boyfriend. After about a year plus she agreed to kiss me for the first time. I had to get another girl to be satisfying me sexually because I didn’t want to hurt my girlfriend. With time she learnt bj. She was really good at it but, still won’t let me touch her. At some point I doubted that she was still a virgin. During the second year of dating she went fully naked before me for a first time and I have never given any girl head before but I did it for her. Just when I wanted to go in she changed her mind. Only God knows how I held myself cuz I almost raped her that day.Fast forward to 3 years later, I travelled outside the country. I still communicated with her (we didn’t break up but, I broke up with the other girls I had sex with). My work kept me busy so I couldn’t communicate with her much and she complained about it. I felt bad so I told her to date someone else when I return we will continue. That was the last time l heard from her till I came back to Nigeria. When I came back I called her.Her attitude towards me had changed and all. Then she said we already broke up I was like when?. She reminded me I said she should date someone else I had already forgotten that. She was asking me what I took her for. She was angry and wouldn’t give me chance to explain. She even said she was in another relationship and happy. Which I later found out was a lie and she was just trying to push me away. I really love that girl truth be told. Somehow she found out I was dating other……
How do you tell your husband after 4 yrs you’re in love with another man and u don’t want to be with him anymore? We have one child together, but I’ve been asking for another baby for 2 yrs now and this new guy is ready to give me a baby nowww😫 all honestly my husband doesn’t match my energy I’m not happy with him anymore. This new guy is everything!!!
